Hi lovelies,

So, this week, I threw it out to some Unislimettes, to see what they would like me to cover in my blog.

I was surprised to find that so many of them all suggested the same thing.....how to deal with attitudes towards your healthy eating lifestyle.

It seems that so many of you have at some stage of your journey, have been met with resistance from friends and family.

Its hard to think that not everyone would support you, when really the only one your new lifestyle is affecting, is yourself, but nonetheless, here and there, compliments can be peppered with destructive remarks, that at the end of the day, can make you doubt yourself/feel a little hurt. "You look fantastic, but you're not gonna lose anymore are you??" or "you look fine now, don't lose any more or you'll start to look sick".  And when you know you have a way to go on your weight loss, hearing comments like that can really take the wind out of your sails.

Another, is the age old Irish idea that good work should be rewarded with food.  Even telling some one you are on a "diet" can result in a packet of biscuits being waved in your face, with the "ah sure its only one, it won't kill ya".  Would they be so quick to wave a cigarette in the face of someone who has recently quit, and say the same thing?

I got the "don't lose anymore" comment thrown at me a number of times when i was about 10lbs off my target.  I know that the people who said it to me, were not saying it out of any kind of badness, I'm sure, at the heart of it, they were letting me know that I looked well, but healthiness doesn't come soley from how you look.  Its about whats going on inside you.  Mentally and physically.  Loosing your last few lbs, is horrendously hard.  It really tests you, because, no matter what you do, it feels like those final lbs are determined to stick.  You walk the legs off yourself, you get a little more restrictive and banking all your Yumz, but nothing will make those lbs come off in chunks....they usually come off in 0.2lbs/0.5lbs if they budge at all.  This process is so hard, and when you are dealing with negative comments at the same time, well, lets just say, its not the most fun in the world.  But eventually they will come off and you will never forget that feeling of seeing your target weight lighting up when you step on the scales.

I think something to remember when you do face these kinds of attitudes is that, you are doing this for you, no one else.  You are following a programme that is covering everything that your body needs, you are not lacking any of the vital food groups or starving yourself.  You are in control of your weight loss. But besides all of this, there are two external little things that you have to take into account.  Some people may be jealous of the fact that you are having success in making changes to your life, when they have failed/or are afraid to even make a start.  And some people don't like change, they may feel uncomfortable that you are no longer their mate who will go out and drink all weekend, or that you may be getting a little extra attention that you didn't get before.

Disregard the negativity.  As hard as it may seem.  The positivity that you have to focus on is that you are doing something fantastic.  You are changing your body for the better.  You will look and even more so - FEEL so much better as you get to a healthy weight/BMI.

Keep kicking fats ass,

Lots of Lurve,

Fee xxx